It has been 4 months since my twin flame last contacted me. I have been trying to not focus to much on him, but it is so unbearable. I find my heart aching sometimes, I want to numb the pain so much. What should I do?

There is nothing that you can do to help numb the pain. You have to let it hurt — let it pass through you. You will eventually learn to live with the void that you feel because you miss him or her.

I tried so many things to try to numb the pain of missing him; I went into a phase of drinking alcohol — I would drink myself to sleep. Even though I was drunk, it intensified feelings of missing him and our telepathic communication. I would end up drunk messaging him which I always regretted the next day.

I tried to go back to my old life — I thought that running back into my estranged marriage would ease the pain but it only reminded me of how I can’t turn back time.

When I failed to find happiness in my past, I chased him for over a year. I thought he would make me feel better if he told me that we were both going through emotional chaos. My chasing behaviors only amplified his running actions.

Then I blocked him; I thought that I was done with him but I could not stop feeling him with me all the time— always thinking of him 24/7.

I finally accepted that my life will change forever and that I will always miss him.

Every time I long for him or feel a void because of missing him, I let the feelings pass through me.

You have to learn to live with your Twin Flame condition.

It is a feedback loop; your Twin Flame can feel it if you have a shift in your energetic vibrations. If you are not used to the love pulling, you wonder why it feels one-sided. It is double-sided — you both feel each other. The best way to enjoy sharing love with your Twin Flame is by using your heart space to send love to him or her every time you feel a heart pulling. The challenge with Surrender is that every time you try to focus on yourself, your Twin Flame pulls you back in. The same thing happens for you too — there are moments when you pull your Twin Flame into the connection when you take long to hear from him or her. You will always feel your Twin Flame, but the trick is to ground yourself in your energy even though you feel the energetic pulling.